DISCOUNTING POSITIVES: Claiming that the positive things you or others do are trivial, so that you can maintain a negative judgment. That's what wives are supposed to do--so it doesn't count when she's nice to me, or Those successes were easy, so they don't matter. #JonathanHaidt

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